
Pain, love, sadness, happiness…
How can a loving God allow pain and suffering, sadness and hate to go on in His world? Why would a loving God send people to Hell? Why would He send them to a place where they will be in pain forever? Why would a loving God do these things? Well…I will attempt to tackle some of these things. Now I know I am not a scholar, nor a great apologist in the ranks of Origen, Augustine, Justin Martyr, Irenaeus, or Tertullian. I’m no Lee Stroebel, nor am I C.S Lewis, and I’m not Ravi Zacarias….so if I don’t seem to have all the greatest and most scholarly and theologically sound answers…I’m still learning, I’m growing and I’m studying… Here goes:
Pain…why would God allow pain to exist in His universe? People also ask how can there be a God when there is so much pain and suffering in the world right? Well, a great writer said something on the issue of pain, in his book The Problem of Pain, C.S. Lewis said, “Try to exclude the possibility of suffering which the order of nature and the existence of free-wills involve, and you find that you have excluded life itself.” Here’s the reality of it. If we didn’t know what pain and sadness, anger and suffering was….we wouldn’t know what love, joy, peace and happiness was. It even brings to my mind the question of meaning in the universe. Love itself, is closely related to the indication that there is meaning to this universe. Another C.S. Lewis quote goes like this: “If the whole universe has no meaning, we should never have found out that it has no meaning: just as, if there were no light in the universe and therefore no creatures with eyes, we should never know it was dark. Dark would be without meaning.” If there was no pain, no sadness…love and joy would have no meaning. They would just be words without meaning. The reason we have pain, the reason we have love…is because God created us in His likeness. In Genesis 1:26-27 it says this: “Then God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.’ So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Now again, I am no theologian, so I will let one speak better words than I could. Chuck Smith has a commentary on this verse where he discusses the image and likeness and what it means. “WHAT DOES IT MEAN IN THE IMAGE AND LIKENESS OF GOD? First of all the Bible tells us that God is a Spirit, and they that worship Him must worship Him in Spirit and in truth. God is a superior trinity, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Man was created an inferior trinity, spirit, soul, and body.It is in the realm of the Spirit that man meets and can commune with God. We are created in the image of God in the spiritual sense.God’s chief emotional attribute is love, so God created us with a capacity to love.God has the capacity to reason, so He created us with the ability to reason.God’s chief governing characteristic is self determination, so he created us with the capacity of self determination.God thinks, feels, wills, speaks, so He has created us with the capacity to think, feel, will and speak.” So it is in that same spiritual sense that we are like Him in the fact that we have free will. We are not robots. We have choice, we have the ability to decide and live according to those decisions. That gives everything we do so much meaning and so much profound significance. If we “loved” without free will, it would not be love. We would be robots programmed to say words without meaning. It is in the ability to choose that the word love has meaning. Love is a verb, it’s a willing action undertaken by a person. If we program a computer to say “I love you” everytime you turn it on, does it really love you? No! But if you willingly choose to love a person and give yourself to that person through trust and commitment as a friend, husband or wife, father or mother, son or daughter…and do whatever it takes to demonstrate that love to them, it is meaningful and it is real. But without pain, without the antithesis of love, we would not know what it was. Emotional pain, is just like physical pain. It is a teaching tool. When you put your hand on the stove, you learn by the physical pain that doing that is detremental to you right? It’s the same with emotional pain. In his first letter to the church at Corinth, the Apostle Paul advises the members by saying that “‘Everything is permissible for me’—but not everything is beneficial. ‘Everything is permissible for me’—but I will not be mastered by anything.” (I Corinthians 6:12) and again a few chapters later, “‘Everything is permissible’—but not everything is beneficial. ‘Everything is permissible’—but not everything is constructive.” (I Corinthians 10:23). We learn to discern what is beneficial and constructive by the Word of God, by His Spirit’s guiding us, and by the experiences we live through when we don’t listen to the Word or the Spirit. You learn by experience, and if you take each thing in stride you learn to love more profoundly by the pain.
Well you could say “what about Hell”? Why would a God who loves us so much send people to Hell? Who sends whom? Does God who gave us the free will to choose send us anywhere or do we willingly choose Hell? What is Hell to begin with? Hell is a place of total and complete separation from God for eternity. Hell is finally knowing 100% that God is real, Jesus died for you and you rejected Him, and now you are suffering because you know you could have been in eternity worshipping Him but instead you are forever separated from Him because you chose not to love Him and reject Him your whole life. Heaven is the opposite. Heaven is eternity in His presence worshipping Him and laying all down at His feet, loving Him and walking with Him forever. It is for those who in their earthly life chose to love Him and enter into that personal relationship with Him, be reconciled to God through the freedom from sin and death we have in Jesus Christ. It is the person who chose to forsake themselves and LOVE the Lord God with all their heart, soul, and mind. It is a confession of faith in Jesus Christ who died and rose again to pay the price for our iniquity, to bridge the gap between a holy God and fallen man. So…if a person spent their life choosing to reject Christ and being separated from God, how unfair would it be for God to force that person to spend eternity worshipping Him and serving Him in love? How unfair would it be for God to force a person who rejected Him for 70,80,90,100 years…to accept Him and worship Him for all eternity? It wouldn’t be, it would be forced, it would be the exact opposite of free will. If you choose to reject Him and be separate from Him in your earthly life because you refused to have faith, then you will by your choices be separated from Him for all eternity, because how easy it is to believe when you see! But to believe and love in faith through the hope we have in Christ, now that is love. It all boils back to free will, and the problem of pain doesn’t it? Well….this was all sparked in me to write about because a friend of mine put this quote and blogged about it….
“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s b.s.. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.”
- Jim Morrison
Interesting stuff. Very passionate, very insightful. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous said Jim Morrison right? I saw some other great thoughts on the subject and wanted to share them with you…
Mother Teresa said:
“I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.”
Unknown author said:
“Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, pain of love lasts a lifetime.”
Robert Gary Lee said:
“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.”
Siddhartha Gautama (the Buddha) said:
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”
Bartholomew said:
“Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all you are beyond the pain.”
C.S. Lewis (in his book The Problem of Pain) said:
“God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”
C.S Lewis said (in his book The Great Divorce):
“There are two kinds of people: those who say to God, ‘Thy will be done,’ and those to whom God says, ‘Thy will be done.’”
Gian Carlo Menotti said:
“Hell begins on the day when God grants us a clear vision of all that we might have achieved, of all the gifts which we have wasted, of all that we might have done which we did not do”
Tyron Edwards said:
“Hell is truth seen too late – duty neglected in its season”
Marianne Williamson said:
“God created the law of free will, and God created the law of cause and effect. And he himself will not violate the law. We need to be thinking less in terms of what God did and more in terms of whether or not we are following those laws.”
Agatha Christie said:
“There’s too much tendency to attribute to God the evils that man does of his own free will.”
P.J. O’Rourke said:
“One of the annoying things about believing in free will and individual responsibility is the difficulty of finding somebody to blame your problems on. And when you do find somebody, it’s remarkable how often his picture turns up on your driver’s license.”
-DannyValentine